Monday, December 15, 2008

BDSM RELATIONSHIPS

Have you ever stopped and thought about what are relationships all about? Have you ever thought what that one word means? Relationships, in relationship, to a place a point, a destination. To relate, to understand, to communicate. Let us take a look at the first part of the definition.

In relationship to a point, to a destination. If we examine this we can see that we as people, wish to "get to a common destination". It is a destination of finding the 'One". We wish to come to a place of understanding and complete openness and ACCEPTANCE from another person. We strive to find the "ONE" to get to the point of that destination. Hopefully, we enjoy the journey! Do not forget, this is a journey, at times we struggle, at times we move with the current, and at times we rest. In other words : Focus on "Enjoying The Journey!"

Let us continue to the second part of the definition. To Relate. Not to compare, but to find in another what we understand, what has meaning to ourselves, what brings us closer to that person, and what attracts us to that person. To recognize the "we" in the "us".

In BDSM relationships it is most important to TRUST. The journey of TRUST comes from and is a part of the ability to relate. It is never all about the excitement factor or the need factor. I see many people in BDSM relationships rushing off with a person they have just met, just because their sexual physiology (parts) are excited. This leads to disaster more than success. BDSM relationships are supposed to be deeper, with more understanding, trust, honesty and a deeper sense of love and care. We all are trying to meet the "ONE". We are all trying to heal the scars of pain remembered. We are trying to fill the want within, for we all WANT!

When we relate and have a relationship, it will bring us great pleasure and peace to our lives. The,ME! ME! ME! must evolve into the US! US! US! Relationships are not easy but the journey can be very fulfilling and wondrous. signed, M.K.

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